In our series of articles about essential skills for expats in México we examine five essential skills any budding expat considering México should develop, whether the move is for living, working, or retirement—full-time or part-time.
In this second part of the series, we explore the need to develop flexibility and patience as you settle-in and adapt to México.
For a variety of reasons, which include bureaucracy, ceremony, and cultural habit, some situations which develop in México could appear quite frustrating to unwary foreigners.
Sometimes it’s because one is “used to” things, especially supposedly simple things, happening differently (usually more quickly) than they might do in México. Sometimes, the lack of something you really need or would very much like within a certain time frame can lead to frustration, inconvenience—or even loss.
If you plan to live in México, you’ll need to develop degrees of flexibility and exercise a generous helping of patience with yourself and with others; not just from time to time, but as a matter of course. If you don’t have a naturally flexible character and cannot come to find the patience in yourself to adapt, you might discover México to be a very challenging place to live.
Many foreigners who have settled in México and now make this country their home share stories about how they moved away from stressful lifestyles to find a more agreeable rhythm in México. They describe how the process is almost cathartic, but only as and when they accepted how México is and let go of once habitual demands which appeared to plague their thoughts. This transformation is narrated quite well in Tony Cohan’s popular book On Mexican Time.
Foreigners who come to live in México and cannot find peace with how things are here usually begin to display impatience, frustration, and anger which can sometimes even lead to lack of general respect in formal or informal situations. Inevitably, these frustrations fall on “deaf ears” when dealing with most people.
Moreover, although Mexicans may not outwardly react to antagonistic behavior, the ultimate outcome in a situation could be made worse for the person exhibiting a low mood, through deliberate obstruction —or perhaps total rejection— of his or her wishes: not because it is impossible to fulfill them, but as a response to what is deemed impoliteness.
Remaining calm, allowing matters to take a natural course, being flexible with your plans and expectations, and exercising patience are noble pursuits anywhere you live, and in México they are particularly helpful in everyday situations.
Being a foreigner in a foreign land means playing by your host’s rules. Given that there are an estimated one million foreigners living in México full or part-time suggests that the rules and customs are not that difficult to adopt, and may indeed harbor some inner value.
Resources for adapting to México
Mexperience’s extensive and continuously-updated guide to Living & Lifestyles in México is packed with helpful insights and local knowledge to help you settle-in to México. Here are some chapters from that guide, relevant to adapting:
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